When Your Ex Gets MarriedNovember 10, 2011 at 7:36 am | Posted in Relationship Woes | Leave a comment
Tags: engaged, ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, marriage, weddings
It’s not all flowers and smiles when you get engaged. There are some people, even people who are close to you, who are not going to be happy for you. It’s a sad truth, but a truth it is. Perhaps your girlfriend wants to be happy for you, but she so badly wants what you have that she can’t get passed it, or maybe you have a family member that doesn’t like your future spouse, or maybe you have an ex that, even if he/she knows its over, cannot be happy for you, or maybe there’s someone out there that wishes you weren’t “off the market.”
But you can’t control people’s reactions to the news. It is your choice as to how to handle these responses, and it’s your choice to brag about it as little or as much as you want.
But it does make you wonder about that one person who meant so much to you at one time. The one that, if things had gone differently, you may have ended up with. It wasn’t easy, but eventually you ended on good terms with that partner, and you each went your separate ways knowing that it wasn’t meant to be. You don’t really talk anymore, aren’t even friends on Facebook. Why would you want to know everything about your ex? But then you wonder, does he know that your engaged? Does he know that not only have you moved on, but you have met the person who you plan to spend the rest of your life with? Does he need to know? Should you tell him?
At this point in my life, I have seen a few of my exes go on and get married, but the one, the most serious one, I don’t know what he’s up to. I assume that he has moved on as it has been so long and I have chosen to leave the rest of those questions unanswered at this point. But I am at the point where, even though I may be curious, I would be happy for him either way, and I hope that he would be happy for me.
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