Props to the Single Ladies (and Gents)

September 9, 2010 at 7:41 am | Posted in Relationship Woes | 11 Comments
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Contrary to popular belief, not everyone my age is on the verge of getting married.  There are some still living the single life.  Today, I’d like to pay some respect to these folks.

I was never very good at being single.  Even when I was as young as elementary school, I was boy crazy.  I had crushes on boys since the first grade and it just got worse as I got older.  I was always chasing after some guy in one form or another and never could hold on to one for that long. (Remember those ridiculous 2 and 3 week “relationships” from middle school? I had my share of those).

If I were single today, I don’t think much would change.  I’d probably be calling up my long lost lovers trying to reignite whatever attraction existed a thousand years ago, and occasionally date a few new guys. I’d probably even try online dating.  I undoubtedly would have guys on the mind and not even think of truly enjoying the single life.

But there are girls out there that can be single without the thought or dream of a relationship ever forcing them to falter.  There are girls that are willing to sit back, relax, enjoy being independent, and when the time comes to pair up, they won’t push it away. But they aren’t actively looking.

But it doesn’t get any easier to meet someone, as you get older.  After college, you are no longer surrounded by your peers 24 hours a day and most of your days are spent at work.  You are lucky enough to have time to hang out with your friends at night and on the weekends and still tend to the rest of your responsibilities, before even getting to the point of having time for dating.  It’s just not easy to meet people these days.

So to all the single ladies (and gents – don’t want to forget you) I must give you props. You are all beautiful, strong and independent and anyone would be lucky to have you, when you are ready for him or her.


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  1. Depends on how you see it – even though people get more tied up as the years go by, I believe that it is still very easy for a person to meet someone new but it’s just fear or perhaps something else that stops that person in the their tracks. You would figure that it would be the opposite because as people mature, they should be more confident in dealing with new people. But hey, everyone is different.

    Very clever title design by the way 🙂

    • Interesting comment. I feel like there are less options as you get older, so the pool to pick from is actually smaller to start with. On top of that, everyone gets so busy, who has time to even put in the effort to meet new people? I agree with you that confidence can definitely be an issue, but I also think, statistically, the odds start to be against you. Tx fo reading 🙂

      • I agree with you danablair. As we get older our social interaction changes because we become introverted and comfortable with our friends and families. It’s not often that I meet new people. I also think people don’t put in as much effort.

        Another point is that if you think about the people that we are surrounded by and the places we frequent, they are not very relationship friendly. But I think we see it this way because we’re from NYC, a place where most people have tunnel vision and aren’t exceptional friendly. I’ll overstate the overly saturated comment that the ratio of single men to single women is incredibly disproportionate.

  2. As I’ve gotten older, the desire to be single and ‘live my own life’ has decreased. Meaning, I can still LIVE my own life, but when I was single my priorities were totally different, and some not that healthy. Going on 6yrs in a committed relationship through my ENTIRE 20’s, I’d thought I would want to see what else is out there. And you know what? I see what else is out there, and um… NO thank you.

    Besides, I have no idea what I would do if I couldn’t come home and argue about doing the dishes.

    • I should clarify. I’m not talking about if I broke up with my boyfriend, this is what I’d do. I’m thinking more along the lines of if I came out of college single and basically remained that way, I think it would be harder. Since we are in relationships, it’s easy to say thank god I’m not single. That’s why i want to give props to the single folk for fighting the good fight.

      And if you didn’t fight with John over the dishes, you’d call me more often, if that’s at all possible. 🙂

  3. Great Post! I have some incredible lady and gent friends that are single and loving it. I wish when I was single I had the self-assurance and confidence to just ‘be’ and love being single. Instead, I spent far too much time worrying about when Mr. Right would come along. Wish I lived in the moment more… Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  4. […] gives props to the single ladies (and men) out there. Which reminded me of that Boston Legal episode where they try to introduce a […]

  5. *single lady curtsy*

  6. I am newly single, so I needed this! Thanks 🙂
    I just posted your guest blog post! thanks again 😀

    • Thanks Jill! I’ll let my fans know! 🙂

  7. Love this post!

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