Mourning the Young

September 28, 2010 at 7:52 am | Posted in Friends Then and Now, Life and Living | 2 Comments
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I’ve been to a lot of wakes and funerals in my young life. Always different circumstances.  Grandparents dying of old age, parents dying of illnesses, but the ones that always hurt the most are those in my age group — those that die way before their time.

I was going to wait until the anniversary of the first young death I encountered, but unfortunately another just happened, bringing the grand total of tragic young deaths I’ve mourned in my life to 7.

I was 13 when the first passed.  A girl in my grade, a girl I played soccer with, and a number of other activities, left school early one day.  She was diagnosed with brain cancer and died within months.  It wasn’t the first death I had experienced, but since she was so young, it was really hard to understand.  Young people can’t die, I thought.  My grade, my school, my town all mourned for her pretty hard.  Every year on the anniversary of her death, I think of her.  I think of all she missed out on.  I wonder why she was taken from us.

The remaining young deaths I experienced were accident-related.  But the way they were taken from this world isn’t really what matters.  What matters is that they are gone, that they will never get to experience what we the living experience every day.  They’ll never be able to make anymore mistakes, or do great things, see the world, and contribute something to it.  Their untimely deaths, and what they lived for and did in their short lives is the last impression they’ll ever make on those they left behind.

Their deaths make me appreciate life.  Their deaths remind me that though I may complain about car trouble or stress at work, that the ability to feel and experience the good and the bad is what makes life worth living.  I will always hold these kids close to my heart, and hope to honor their young spirits by keeping the memory of them alive.

May those young angels rest peacefully.


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  1. you’re absolutely right. it’s so much harder to go to a funeral or wake of someone who was young and died before their time. I’ve only had to deal with 2 young deaths. it’s hard to go through. I also agree with the fact that seeing so many people die close to you, especially those that were too young to go, makes you appreciate life so much more. RIP to all the young souls.

  2. I wanted to tell you this is a nice post even though it deals with grieving. I wrote several posts called “First Love, Wings, How it Began” are all on this subject. It help to write and release. it’s a great way to remember those that we lost. Prayers to you and all who have lost a loved one.


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