Bridalplasty and the Ongoing Obsession with “Perfection”

January 6, 2011 at 7:27 am | Posted in Fashion, Fitness and Beauty | 9 Comments
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Bridalplasty is just the latest TV sensation that highlights Americans’ obsession with paying for perfection.  A guilty pleasure for reality TV lovers, the show highlights women vying for a chance for their perfect wedding — complete with a new face, or whatever other bodily imperfection they see fit to fix.  The idea of the show is just insane and rightfully controversial, which makes for great TV.  People love train wrecks.  But the premise of the show, at its core, channels women’s insecurities just as many shows, ads, magazines, movies, and products have done before.

When I was in high school, there were a handful of girls getting the “deviated septums fixed” and beyond high school I’ve seen many a boob job.  While I have not gone so far as to surgically change my appearance, like all girls, I wanted: a smaller tummy, thinner thighs, bigger boobs, a smaller nose.  But I honestly never thought about getting surgery. I knew it wasn’t in the cards financially, for one thing, and for another, who knew if I’d be happy with the results.  I was reminded of this when I read an article on AOL earlier this week about a girl’s twice failed attempts at getting her nose fixed.  Does changing your nose really change who you are?

I am definitely not above paying for perfection. I won’t front.  When I was in high school, I got electrolysis done on my upper lip every week for several months, insecure about dark hair and light skin.  Electrolysis is not a cheap or pain free procedure, but it sure beat being called “Mustache girl,” (not that I ever got called that, not to my face at least).  The truth is, most people probably didn’t even notice my peach fuzz, but I did, and in order to walk around with my head held high and strut my stuff, I felt the need to get this done.  I just happen to draw the line at cutting my body open and stuffing plastic into it just to make something bigger or smaller.

As of today, the only procedure I would consider is laser eye surgery (which I’ve blogged about before — not senile yet) and that’s really more out of convenience, though I would be more confident not relying on contact lenses (what if there is some sort of natural disaster and I’m without my contacts?  I won’t be able to see anything forever!).  When I’m older and gravity takes over, maybe I’ll change my mind…

We can’t change the media, and we can’t change what sells.  It’s the human condition. But in the words of TLC:

You can buy your hair if it won’t grow
You can fix your nose if he says so
You can buy all the make-up that mac can make
But if you can’t look inside you
Find out who am i, too
Be in a position to make me feel so damn unpretty

RIP Left Eye (4/25/02)


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  1. Great post Dee. I will be the first to admit I love a good trashy reality show… but I ABSOLUTELY refuse to watch Bridalplasty. What do the soon-to-be husbands think? Everyone wants to look their best on their wedding day, so you lose a little weight, get your hair-did, nails done, professional make-up… What husband wants to marry a woman who looks completely different than the woman he fell love with?

    I’m super disappointed that this show has even made it on air. Remember that ‘Extreme Make-over’ show? People with deformities (in the eyes of medical doctors and the patients) would get makeovers so they could just feel confident enough to leave the house. Surgical makeovers for good intentions, I get that. But not this insane crap of a show.

    I never ever thought of surgery to fix my body. I have been very lucky that I was raised to love myself, even now being overweight. The only cosmetic thing I would consider, are veneers, and if they weren’t so damn expensive, I’d get them. No one has ever made a comment about my teeth, nor do I feel that self conscious about them, but I think a 100 watt smile is something to be proud of 😀

    • Yea, teeth whitening would be good, but think of it this way. At some point, you may actually need dentures! And with Bridalplasty, you gotta see it to believe it, and even then, you just won’t believe it. What will they come up with next!

  2. I refuse to see that show because ( in my opinion) it is trying to convince people that plastic surgery is the solution for everything. They should focus more in how to make someone more confident by not getting surgery. Great post by the way 😉

    • Thanks! It seems we have a never ending pool of people willing to do anything for a buck!

  3. I’m all about clothing, jewelry, haircuts, makeup even sometimes (because I’m into adornment and pretty things) but why would you want to look like a generic barbie? Plus, I certainly would rather be recognized for my bright blue eyes, my quick wit, my creativity, or my long long legs than my plastic creation.

    Is this hypocritical? I can’t be sure.

    Anyhoo, I clicked over from “for the love of blogs,” in case you’re wondering. Quite a thought provoking post!


    • cool! And good to know hoe you found me. Hope you’ll come back soon!

  4. Lovely post. I am from India, and we have our share of bizarre shows here too. I am sure that the moment an Indian channel finds out about this show, they’ll snap it up and Indianise it.

    • wouldn’t be surprised! Glad to hear it’s not just another case of those moronic Americans 🙂

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