We are Family…and 100 posts!!!

March 3, 2011 at 7:32 am | Posted in Family Ties | 12 Comments
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What is the “perfect” family?  The “typical” family?  Modern tradition (though not accurate) may say two parents, husband and wife, and two children — a girl and a boy. Back in the day, families consisted of two parents, husband and wife, and as many children as they could possibly have.  Big families ensured that enough people would survive to carry on the bloodstream. To me, big families also mean lots of people who know you, understand you and love you; lots of people who can pass on the traditions that give this country its character.

I have what some may call a modern traditional immediate family, but my family is small overall.  My mother was an only child and my father only had one brother.  I have but two first cousins, 1 uncle, 1 aunt.  I lost my grandparents at a young age, and barely know any relatives beyond a few second cousins.  But the idea of family is something that I have always valued. So I subconsciously studied other people’s families — their relationships with their siblings, grandparents, cousins.  I actually think this might partially explain my obsession with Italian Americans.  All the Italian Americans I know have big, close knit families — something I always craved. I know, I know, I shouldn’t make assumptions based on culture, but you can’t help what you see as true.

I actually find it ironic in a way the media spectacle that was Nadya Suleman (aka Octomom).  While I don’t agree with the way she went about building a family (I just think it’s a little irresponsible, and well the pictures were just yucky), she was basically building a big family — the way that families used to be.

I always envisioned myself having two kids.  I really want a girl one day so I can teach her to be a better woman than I am, and I want a boy too, so I can learn about raising both, and so that they can have each other and not grow up lonely, or too spoiled.   I never thought about having more kids than that, which now that I’m old enough to really think about it, I think is actually realistic.  Kids are expensive! It costs almost a quarter of a million dollars to raise a kid, and that doesn’t include college!

But I do want a close family.  It may not be big, but I will do everything in my power to make it close knit family.

I hope you enjoyed my 100th post!  It’s been quite a ride so far!  In honor of my 100th post, I am trying to get 100 fans on my Facebook page by my blog-anniversary (April 11).  So if you haven’t already, like me on Facebook. You’ll get post previews and other cool stuff.  Thanks to all of my loyal readers and those who have stopped by over the past year.  You’ve made this blog a success!


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  1. Congrats on the 100 posts! I noticed your post contemplating what makes up a family these days.

    You may find family particularly interesting. We are a little out of the nornm, but not through our own choice!

  2. I have the traditional family too! Mom/Dad boy & girl. I also had a grillion cousins. And my grandmother had 15 brothers and sister, but they’re all in France. But I can only imagine what life would be like if I had that many cousins I knew. I believe my grandmother said the last update she had was 33 nieces and nephews scattered over France and Spain?? Insane. Having a close-knit family was pretty important to us, and I’m glad I had it. Best friends certainly replace the brother or sister you never had! 🙂

    • I definitely did replace that need with friends for sure!

  3. I want four kids, all boys preferably. Maybe one girl just for the variety. But yeah, I can’t imagine if I hadn’t grown up with my brother and a really close cousin, who was almost like a second brother. Granted, I moved across the country and barely see them anymore, but when I go back, there’s this instant comfort. These people knew me like the back of their hands for my entire upbringing. I also know that if I ever did need something, they’d totally be there for me, just as I’d be there for them. Which is why I want four kids. It’ll only cost a million dollars, I can swing that… somehow… eventually…

    • for sure! But four boys? Good luck! Boys are tough!

  4. Yay for 100 posts! I just hit mine recently, too. Amazing how time flies, eh?

  5. 100 posts that’s a lot congrats 🙂 I wanted a Italian family too but not because of how big they usually are ( I have a big family ) but because I would love to eat Fettuccine Alfredo everyday hahaha.

  6. Back then large families could be afforded. The problem with Nadya Suleman is that she couldn’t even afford the kids she had already and really had no business having more.

  7. I want a boy and girl. But if must be, I’d rather have two girls than two boys.

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