September 22, 2011 at 7:36 am | Posted in Friends Then and Now, Relationship Woes | 2 Comments
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The saying goes, “when one door closes, another one opens.” What the saying doesn’t cover is what happens when that first door never fully closes.

Closure — so elusive.  We all seek it sometimes, typically following a serious break up.  But closure is more than just something we think we need to move on. Closure is also about satisfaction and regret.

Closure is about saying the things you never had a chance to say, or wishing you could take back the things you did say or do. Closure isn’t always about closing a door. You can and often do move on from situations unsatisfied with the outcome, sometimes for years. Because life doesn’t stop just because you didn’t get closure. Some things you just have to let go and let time take over.  Time allows for personal growth and a new perspective.

And sometimes, years later, you get an opportunity to go back and make things “right.” And sometimes, you get that blast from the past and realize that, even though things didn’t turn out the way you wanted with someone, you are happy for him/her, and you are happy with the memories you have of each other, of the time you had together.  But a lot of times, you don’t get that opportunity.

Because you learn from it all, even if you don’t get closure. Life isn’t about being satisfied 100% of the time. Life isn’t perfect. All we can do is reflect on what we have experienced and keep on searching for open doors.


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