Singles Only

October 27, 2011 at 7:34 am | Posted in Relationship Woes | 4 Comments
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So it’s under a year now until my wedding day and planning is moving slowly but surely, and of course along the way I continue to get advice and figure out things I want and do not want at my wedding, and what I want the mood of the night to be.  One of the pieces of advice that I received seemed like a given to me, but apparently it is not.

One of my single colleagues asked me to do her one favor — do not have a “singles” table at the wedding.  For me, I never would have even thought to do that.  It’s not that I’m against people meeting at my wedding — I’d encourage that — but I just don’t think there is any reason why someone’s relationship status should determine where they sit at a wedding.  Just because two people are single doesn’t mean they have anything else in common.

With that said, I don’t imagine creating tables of couples with just one person flying solo.  It’s been a while since I’ve been on that side of the game, but from what I recall being surrounded by couples isn’t exactly an ideal situation for a single person, particularly a newly single person.

For my wedding, I want to create a fun, welcoming environment.  For me, it’s not just my day.  It’s a day where everyone I care about come together to celebrate the union of my fiancé and I, but for me the keyword really is celebration.  I would absolutely love for two of my friends to meet at my wedding and hit it off, but creating a singles table and attempting to force the situation is just not the approach I would take.  From what I remember, relationships and connections happen a little more naturally than that.

So this was a pretty easy request to fill for my colleague.  Some of the other requests I’m sure won’t be as simple. But I will do my best to make my day worth sharing with those I love.

How do you feel about singles tables?

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  1. When I think of singles tables, I have a mental image of 80’s weddings for some reason. I don’t have too many single friends so it would be pretty obvious if I tried to sit the few single ones at one table.

    • thats a hysterical image! I actually have a lot of single friends. I picture lots of mingling at my wedding — minus the singles table and 80s teased hair and shoulder pads…

  2. Hey… at your wedding, I’ll be where the rest of the singles will be. At the bar and hit’n the buffet for the 3rd time.

    • We’re having an open bar! If that helps you make your MOH speech go for it. Just don’t trip down the aisle. 🙂


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