Second Chances

February 21, 2012 at 7:32 am | Posted in Relationship Woes | Leave a comment
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It’s a question on every woman’s mind on Valentine’s Day in the 9-5 world.  Who’s man is going to make their woman feel really special by sending flowers to her office for all her female colleagues to see?  It’s always somebody.  So when a friend of mine was the lucky gal this year in her office, everyone was surprised, including my friend.  My friend never really spoke about dating anyone.  She spoke often about her ex-husband, but never any recent love interests, so I had to prod her for more information, and the story she told me is a true testament to second chances.

The man behind the flowers turns out to be an old friend who she knew when she and her ex-husband-to-be first started dating, back when she was in her mid-twenties.  Both men had an interest in her and probably didn’t like each other partially because of that.  The man she ended up with was the one who stuck his head out more, the one who had the guts to approach her, the bolder one.  A classic case of “nice guys finish last” syndrome.

But the marriage quickly deteriorated.  Now a single, attractive woman barely in her forties, perhaps she thought that was all that was meant for her.  Perhaps she thought that her life would be complete with the love of her family, friends and cats and the fulfillment of a meaningful job.  I can’t say what she thought.  But I think there is a light in all of us that deep down shines with hope for a second chance when at first you don’t succeed.

I don’t know how they reunited, but they did, and now the nice guy is coming out with guns blazing.  It’s such a spectacular display of wooing the sound of “aww” would make you think a gaggle of girls were surrounding a newborn baby.  It’s the romance and the excitement of the possibilities.  It’s the effort a man takes to impress you, to make you smile.

Who knows what will come of her second chance, but let it be a lesson to all of us.  It’s not over until its over.  Life is full of curve balls. You make the best decisions you can in the moment.  Don’t regret these decisions. If they weren’t meant to be, you may very well get a second chance to try again.

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