You’ll Understand When You’re Older

January 24, 2013 at 10:10 am | Posted in Life and Living | 4 Comments
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A few weeks ago I was in a club watching some live music with some friends.  At the end of the show, my friends and I decided to hang out and get a couple more drinks.  As we were shooting the shit the way we always do, we made some comments about the age group we were surrounded by.  It was the 20-something crowd, but it was the early 20-something crowd — which in the eyes of a late 20s crew, is a totally different animal, but not far away enough for us not to remember and reminisce about the glory of that time in your lives.  The grass, of course, is always greener on the other side.

So when someone we were with, who happens to be a member of this young group, became offended by our reminiscing and commenting on that age group, I found myself and my friends in a difficult conversation that wasn’t going to lead to any kind of resolution.  Because I know how she felt, but she couldn’t possibly understand where we were coming from, because she just wasn’t there yet.  Still, she felt the need to prove that she could hang, that we were somehow wrong, that we weren’t old.

But that wasn’t the point.  It wasn’t about her and it wasn’t even about us being “old.”  It was just an observation about the change that takes place, that you can’t see until you’ve gone through it, no matter what difficult times you’ve had in your life and no matter how many older people you hang out with.  It is easy to seen now the girls dancing with their boys for the night with their asses hanging out, and the girls dancing on stage vying for the attention of sleazy boys.  I’m still of the age where I really enjoy a good night out, occasionally dancing on stage and the such, but then there are nights like this one in particular when I’m out with my friends and completely content dancing next to the bar while enjoying some good conversation and beverages.

I remember going to the club with a huge crew when I was young.  I remember having a stationery spot by the bar where we could always find each other.  I remember grabbing my drinks there and then going off to see what else was going on in the club.  We always had each other’s backs, saving each other from dancing with someone we didn’t want to, but we were fine going off on our own and coming back together later on.  But now, when I go out, it’s different.  I am not out trying to meet people.  I’m out to enjoy the company of the people I am with.

It’s not about feeling young.  I still get into trouble and get crazy just as I did when I was young.  It’s just interesting to see how things change.

But a young 20-something wouldn’t understand.  She’ll have to wait until she’s older.

And now for another round of 20 Something Bloggers Blog Swap!

August 17, 2011 at 7:24 am | Posted in Life and Living | 5 Comments
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Welcome to a very special Wednesday post!  I’m taking part in 20 Something Bloggers‘ Blog Swap!  I’ve been paired with Drake, a blogger from Miami.  Check out his blog, Love Monkey for dating advice for men.

Here’s the topic: Share anything summer-related with us! I hope you all enjoy Leo’s post and be sure to check out his blog for my post!

Summer can mean a lot of different things depending on our age, location, marital status, etc. Technically, Summer is defined as the warmest season of the year, in the northern hemisphere from June to August and in the southern hemisphere from December to February. Indeed, this is the case for all of us here at Love Monkey due to the fact that we are in one of the best summer vacation spots in the world…Miami! As I am you are you’re aware, Miami is the home of Miami Beach (a.k.a. South Beach) where all the celebs and beautiful people flock to year round. As a kid, summer meant no school and an extended trip out of the “Magic City” (a.k.a. Miami). However, as we are forced to become adults (ugh!), summer means no break from work, super hot weather and tons of tourists. Can’t complain though as Miami has been and will be my home for many years to come unless I become famous and move to New York or Los Angeles of course. Duh.

The summer of 2011 served to be one with many ups and downs. For starters, our blog Love Monkey | Dating Advice for Men, launched the beginning of June and has taken off quite well since it’s inception. Feels good to have an idea sketched into your mind and being able to transform it into something tangible. Since Love Monkey discusses topics related to love, dating and relationships, let’s take a turn down that alley. The Summer of 2011 consisted break-ups, start-ups, question marks and a sprinkle of drama here and there. So much for Summer Love huh? For me, Summer has become a time of reflection. Other than Thanksgiving/Christmas time, Summer is a time where our lives differ from the rest of the year which leads me to take a step back and look at where I am and where I’d like to go relating to many aspects of my life. Figuratively speaking, the love/relationship “cog” in the machine that is my life has always been the cog that needed the most WD-40 and elbow grease but was always put on the back burner as all other cogs in the machine churned successfully. Sometimes things just click in our minds and enable us to finally realize something we’ve been ignoring or neglecting. We never stop growing and evolving in my opinion. The key is to allow yourself to do so instead of ignoring it or pushing it aside.

The main thing I can take away from this Summer is the realization that when it’s all said and done… life is nothing without special people to share it with. Appreciate the people that appreciate you. Realize you cannot do it alone as the other half needs to put forth the same amount of effort. Know your value and be valued. Enjoy the time allotted and don’t take it for granted.

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