February 3, 2011 at 7:27 am | Posted in Life and Living | 11 Comments
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the set up from my 18th bday

Tomorrow is my 28th birthday.  Not exactly a national holiday technically, but a big day in my life and the life of this blog.  After all, this blog is all about my journey to thirty in its current incarnation.  So what kind of blogger would I be if I just pretended I never aged?

Ten years ago this week, I turned 18.  Eighteen is a big milestone in the life of a teenager.  You are legally able to vote, buy cigarettes, and get into clubs.  Truth be told, it wasn’t really a big birthday for me.  I didn’t care about voting and I never had real trouble buying cigarettes or getting into clubs.

I was not in a good place emotionally when I turned 18.  My boyfriend had broken up with just a few weeks before and I was completely heartbroken.  I was not in the mood to celebrate.  But my friends insisted we do something.  So we threw a party the way we often threw parties back then — by renting a cheap hotel room, inviting lots of people over and getting trashed.

My best friends arranged everything and one of my really close friends at the time made the one hour trek down to my town just for the occasion.  They took good care of me. So it was understandable that they were pissed when I couldn’t shake my sadness.

I’ve had other birthdays where I was just sad.  My 21st birthday fell on a Wednesday. I was away in college and my boyfriend couldn’t make the drive up in the middle of the week (obviously not the same boyfriend as on my 18th birthday, though I kind of feel like a pimp right now).  Another big birthday, this time because you could legally drink, that was not too exciting for me. I went out to Bertucci’s with one friend and partied like normal all weekend.

I know I only mentioned two bad birthdays, but I’ve had good birthdays, too.  The thing with the good birthdays is that they sometimes blend together into one. It’s easy to remember the bad ones as isolated events.

So I have a love/hate relationship with my birthday.  Nobody likes getting older, but there is this feeling that you are somehow supposed to be happy.  Historically, birthdays were celebrated because people are happy you are still alive. Ok, I’m generalizing, but if I’m not mistaken, that’s the reason first birthdays were celebrated back in the day when mortality levels were high.

I’ve been working on changing my outlook on this, and I’m in a really good place in my life right now.  I am happy and looking forward to celebrating my birthday. It’s really a good excuse to party. Not that you ever need an excuse. 🙂

20 Something Bloggers Blog Swap!

December 20, 2010 at 7:28 am | Posted in Career Moves, Life and Living | 1 Comment
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Welcome to a very special Monday post!  I’m taking part in 20 Something Bloggers‘ Blog Swap!  I’ve been paired with Karen, a blogger/life coach from Ontario, Canada.  Check out her blog, Igniting Your Life for some real inspiration!

Here’s the topic: “What will you do next year that you’ve been putting off for too long?”  I hope you all enjoy Karen’s post!

2011 is The Year of Dreams

I approach 2011 with some trepidation.  It’s the year I turn 30.  Growing up, I thought 30 was old.  Now that I’m nearly there, I realize that life is just beginning.  While as a 10 year old, I thought life would be much different at nearly 30, standing here in present day, I actually think that I’m right where I ought to be.

Looking back over this past year, I see 2010 as a preparation year.  It was year of soul-searching, looking deep within, challenging myself and stretching my understanding of who I am.  I went back to school while working, I moved back home to save money, which now has an added bonus of being there for my parents in some rough times.  I’ve also changed how I view myself.  I am starting to see myself as competent, intelligent, resourceful, smart… things that I’ve been told for years, but didn’t believe.

As 2010 winds down, I’m looking forward to what the new year will bring.  I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions, they far too often fail for one reason or another.  Rather, I would prefer to pick a theme or an overall idea for the year.  2011 is going to be the year of realizing my dreams and doing things for me, without guilt.

I am starting my own life, career and wellness coaching business, I am putting myself out there.  For so long I wished I could find a way to be self-employed.  It’s not that I don’t love my human resources career, but it just didn’t allow me to do what I liked, be as in control of things as I want and to connect with people.  But I always put it off because I was scared to take a risk.  Now, I’ve decided that 2011 is the right time.

There are always reasons not to do something.  And there’s never a perfect time.  I look at my life right now, and there are some very big reasons to slow down and maybe not try to start this business.  But the number one reason to do it?  I’ve always wanted to.  That reason trumps them all.  And because I’m doing things for me, sans guilt, this is a must do.

Those obstacles that are standing in my way can be dealt with, worked around and overcome with a bit of tenacity, thinking outside the box and some help from friends and family.  I decided that I wanted this business bad enough that it was worth sorting things out to make it a go.

The last few years I’ve decided that age 30 is going be The Year.  The Year for big, wonderful dreaming.  The Year I come into my own.  The Year that I take my life by the horns and get things I always wanted done.  And I’m working hard for that.  It’s something I’ve never done before!  I’ve rarely decided that I’m worth making such an effort.  Not anymore!

Look out 2011!  I’m turning thirty and it’s the year my dreams will come true!

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