Things I’m Going to Do After the Wedding

July 12, 2012 at 7:47 am | Posted in Life and Living | 4 Comments
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With my wedding less than 3 months away, constant work travel, my major company conference next week, followed directly by one of my best friend’s weddings, my to do list has been on hyperdrive.  It seems I never have a moment to sit back and relax.  Anyone planning an event, be it a wedding or a conference, or anything else, knows just how much there is to do, so my best friend had a good question for me.  What am I going to do when the wedding is over to keep busy?My list was not short.  There are a lot of things I have been holding off on since this insanity really hit.  Here are a few.

  1. Cooking: I’m been trying to eat really healthy, and yes the theory is that when you cook, you eat better.  But when I cook, I experiment, and not all my recipes are healthy.  Right now, I don’t have the time or the money to invest in cooking new recipes.  I have been keeping it real simple and just preparing food that only really needs heating on the stove and basic seasoning.
  2. Paying off my bills:  I have let go of control of my budget.  With all of the expenses of my wedding, I have let my credit card balances get higher than I’m used to and I’m not paying them off monthly the way I always have.  But it’s an expensive time in my life, and I don’t want to hold back from the one wedding I plan on having.  I will work to pay it back after the wedding.
  3. My 30th birthday!  That’s right readers!  My 30th birthday is just 7 months away, and clearly an important moment in the life of this blog.  I have to do something, big or small, to mark this moment in history.
  4. Moving day!  I will finally find a new apartment — two bedrooms and dog friendly, a place we can stay for a while.  I plan to be out of this apartment by next summer.  I’m looking forward to decorating a new place that I love!
  5. Travel –  It may sound like the last thing I want to do at this point, but I have got to get back to Europe.  I plan to save money and collect miles with the goal of making this happen for our 1 year anniversary (surprise honey!)
  6. My BFF –  My BFF has been spending so many of her weekends dealing with everyone else’s celebrations and sacrificing her own.  I am going to do something special for her 30th.  She seriously deserves it.

So that’s just a few things.  I know what a lot of newlyweds say, that they miss the excitement leading up to the wedding, that it all ends so fast.  But for me, I’ll be happy to leave this craziness behind and start living my life as a married woman.

Life’s Inventory

January 24, 2012 at 7:31 am | Posted in Life and Living, Relationship Woes | Leave a comment
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It has been a while since my last wedding planning update.  I have done a ton of planning, but I’ve also done a ton of other things as well, so wedding stuff at the moment falls in line with the rest of my to-do list.  Perhaps it’s because of a longer engagement, who knows?  All I know is I have booked all of my vendors and feel like I can do some of the more relaxing parts of the planning process, like working on my registry.

I remember when I first moved out, when I was still with my ex.  I remember building my furniture collection much in the way as I did in college (hand-me-downs and DYI).  I wasn’t about to spend money on nice stuff. I didn’t have the money, nor did I have the space.  I always had it in my head that when I got engaged, I would register for nice stuff.  Of course at that point I thought I would be marrying my then boyfriend, and follow the typical course of life (marriage, house, family, blahblahblah).

So now that I am actually engaged, reality is quite different that what I imagined.  It is not easy building a registry, attempting to predict what I will need in my married life.  What is really going to change once I get married?  Not a lot at first.  So do I really need dinnerware for dinner parties that I may or may not hold in the next five years? And how do you even buy plates when you don’t know what your future kitchen will look like once you get to the point of buying a home?

So I’m struggling a bit on this one.  I am finding myself spending a ton of time trolling through merchandise online trying to figure out what a good wife needs (luckily, I found some great Amazon coupons here).  I tend to lean towards kitchen gadgets because I like to cook. But what about bathroom stuff, or other stuff? I just don’t know.  How do you inventory a life not yet lived?

And I know that I should just take this as an opportunity to upgrade, to make those incremental improvements to life that I always talk about.  But it’s such a strange custom to me. Tell people what you want, have them buy it and wrap it, and then pretend to be surprised when you open something you asked for?  And then followed by a personalized thank you note, as though I will remember in five years who got me that food processor?

I don’t know, but it’s putting a lot of things into perspective for me.  I don’t know what is on the other side of this wedding, because wedding planning isn’t marriage planning.  Perhaps this custom will help me consider what tools I need in my toolbox for a successful marriage, but I’ll take the gifts in the meantime.

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