Living in the Moment

January 3, 2012 at 7:36 am | Posted in Life and Living | 2 Comments
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Hello, and welcome to 2012! By now you have hopefully recovered from any New Year’s antics (or anti-antics) you have taken part in and are coming back down to the reality that is before you.  Those plans for New Year’s Resolutions kick into high gear.  Gyms will be overcrowded for the next few months. The produce and diet sections of the supermarket will be packed, while fried chicken joints will see a temporary and barely noticeable decrease in business.  But this stuff is never long-lasting.  Old habits die really hard.

When I look at my New Year’s Resolutions from last year (after I write them, I do not revisit them as I hope to have internalized them/forget I actually wrote them down).  I did much better in fulfilling my 2010 resolutions than I did my 2011, because they were more tactical items like finding a new job and moving in with my boyfriend.  Last year’s resolutions were broader scope, true changes in how I live my life, and having started the year without an engagement ring on my finger, it has proven difficult to keep some of these resolutions (namely, giving more and spending “wisely”).  My third resolution — take better care of myself — I think I did okay on.  I did invest a few months in personal training, have always regularly seen my doctors, and do my best to maintain my skin, hair, and nails.

It’s really my last resolution that bothers me a bit.  I’m not sure where my mind was when I wrote it — “Live in the moment more”.  Hm…  I think now I take what is likely a different spin on what this means.  I think it is more about dropping pettiness and jealousy; not taking things personally — being more carefree.  This is something I still need to work on.

But looking to 2012, I’m going to have to spin all of my New Year’s Resolutions of 2011 on their backs and live in the moment more, even if this conflicts with spending wisely.  2012 will brings lots of weddings and related festivities, and I’m sure I am in for a few more surprises.

So my real goal for 2012 is to enjoy all of the parties and trips that have already occupied my calendar and my wallet and just go with it.  At the end of 2012, I will be a married woman and I will look back at my wedding, those of my friends, and all the adventures in between and be able to say, “Now that’s living in the moment.  And now, let’s catch up on some bills.”

Looking to 2011: Goals and Resolutions

December 30, 2010 at 7:38 am | Posted in Life and Living | 10 Comments
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There are those who make resolutions each year — some keep em, some forget about them — and there are those who think the whole thing is a big joke, perhaps because they tend to lead to failure.  But being a goal-oriented person as I am, I take this time to reassess my goals to make realistic resolutions that support these goals.  This allows me to be more successful when I make resolutions.

My first resolution is to give more (if I can).  I feel I have been blessed with some job security and domestic partnership that have made my finances reasonable.  I will continue to be conservative in my giving, as you never know what can happen, but I know a lot of people are suffering with the poor economy and other sad circumstances.  I will do what I can to help others.

My second resolution is directly tied to my first one.  I have set a goal for myself to pay off my small student loan but the end of 2011.  This means I need to spend wisely.  I will not force myself to go without as I have done in the past, but I will harness my inner bargain shopper to ensure I get good deals on the things I need and the things I want.  I will also not fear going too low in my bank account.

My third resolution is to take better care of myself.  I’m not getting younger, and yes, I know I’m not old.  But I want to age gracefully and live a long and healthy life.  This means eating better on a regular basis, working out consistently, and a little bit of pampering.

My fourth resolution is to live in the moment more.  I find that women tend to have a way of always worrying about the future while men are much better at living in the moment.  There needs to be a balance of both.  There sometimes needs to be some planning so that you can live in the moment.  In 2011, I will continue to seek out exciting experiences and enjoy the simple moments of being with my boyfriend, my friends, and my family.

In writing this list, I came cross the lists I’ve created over the past few years.  Many of these same ideas have been appeared in the past.  But I’ve also been able to cross off several items, too.  By affirming these resolutions, whether new or old, I am recognizing their importance in my continued growth and life fulfillment.

I ended 2009 on a low note, and am happy to be ending 2010 on a high note, with just some typical life stresses to worry about.  I’m looking forward to continued growth in 2011.  Bring it on!

What are your resolutions? How will you meet them?

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