Reality Bites

January 8, 2013 at 8:52 am | Posted in Life and Living | Leave a comment
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This past weekend was my husband’s birthday.  He is exactly one month older than me.  That’s right. He hit the big 3-0.  And if there is anyone who is more obsessed with time than me, it’s him.  Being the oldest of his friends growing up, he has never really enjoyed his birthday.  In recent years, we have done a few joint celebrations, and that’s what we have on the docket for this year. So with his birthday passing, I can see mine right around the corner.

And things just got real.  When I created this blog 3 years ago, my hook was life leading up to 30.  I had hopes. I had goals. I had dreams.  I had a plan.  And now that I’m about to cross this “finish line” I can’t help but look back and see how I did.

I remember very distinctly how I felt sitting at my high school graduation.  Sitting and listening to the program, I knew that I was being propelled into an unknown world and that nothing would ever be the same.  I was excited, but I was also nostalgic.  Everything I knew was going to change and I could never really go back to the way things were before.

I want to be able to say that age is just a number, that nothing will really change when I hit 30, but I’d be lying. No, I won’t wake up that morning with a cane by my side, but an important decade will be behind me.  I won’t change overnight, but my plan will change and eventually, my priorities.

I will watch the year go by with many of my other friends also turning 30.  There will be more engagements, weddings, and babies. There may be some divorces, some deaths.  There will be good times and there will be bad, and I will long for simpler times, but I’ll be in good company.  We all won’t be at the same point or even on the same path, but more and more, we will all grow up.

That’s reality.  Reality means I can’t be young forever, though my friends and I will always try to keep each other feeling young.

But it’s not really about being young, is it?  It’s about living, and enjoying life.  It’s a mentality that makes life enjoyable.  Even if you don’t reach all your goals by your deadlines, a positive attitude will keep you motivated and enjoying the ride.

The bite of reality can be hard, but don’t let it suck the life out of you.


February 2, 2012 at 7:37 am | Posted in Life and Living | Leave a comment
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This weekend marks my 29th birthday.  I have been waiting for this moment since I started this blog nearly two years ago.  Two years ago, I had no idea where I would be at this point in my life, but I had goals, some of which I have met and some of which it was just not in the cards. But I guess now, I am truly pushing thirty.

I will spend my birthday with some of the best friends a girl could ask for, preparing for my upcoming wedding, followed by an evening surrounded by people who love me, who will come out to a place of my choosing just to be with me.  I will have my future husband, whose birthday recently passed, by my side.  We will celebrate 29 together, and hopefully many more birthdays.  When I think of it this way, I consider myself really lucky.

Each year when my birthday is coming up, I start getting mixed feelings of excitement and somberness.  I don’t really know where the excitement comes from, because it’s definitely not getting older at this point, but if I had to guess, it must have something to do with the extra attention and affection one receives on their birthday.  One might think that this is how royalty feels everyday.  I do know where the somberness comes from.  The reality that the numbers keep going up, even as we attempt to grasp on to the carefree times of years past.

I guess that’s something that is really at the heart of this blog.  The idea of time.  Sure the structures of time are somewhat arbitrary, but one cannot deny that time exists, things change, and at the end of the day, you have no idea what is going to happen that may change the plans you had.

I think something I have gotten better about in the past few years is making it count.  I go out with my friends. I travel. I make love. I play with my dog. I see live performances.  I eat delicious food.  I sleep.  I watch tv.  I write.  I dance and sing in public like no one is watching.  I laugh. I smile.  I dream. I do meaningful work that has the power to change lives.  I say what’s on my mind.  I remember.

I see many more great years ahead of me.

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