Doing Nothing

June 16, 2011 at 7:33 am | Posted in Life and Living | Leave a comment
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As the hustle and bustle of the work weekend winds down, I find myself looking forward to the weekend for one reason — the opportunity to find time to do nothing.

It’s true that most of the time my weekend is spent running errands and seeing friends and family (and getting to other projects I can’t get to during the week).  Sometimes it can be hectic and sometimes I just want to go out and let loose, but more often than not, I try to find some time to myself to do nothing but hang out at home.

I remember a time when I was never at home, and when I was, I would be locked up in my bedroom on the phone or on the computer instant messaging on AOL (remember that?)  I would never be caught staying home on a Friday or Saturday night in high school (and add Thursday night to that when I got to college).  Before I could drive, I would walk a mile into town to hang out with my friends.  Anything I could do to be socializing!  Being alone wasn’t an option.

But now, when Friday comes, all I really want to do is go home, relax, and be alone.  Work can really drain me and I just need time to clear my mind.  I just need silence.

But the sound of silence isn’t really silent.  And peace isn’t really quiet.  It’s the sound of your favorite TV show, or the dog barking, or the fan blowing, the wind breezing through the trees.  It’s the sound of life, of distraction from the stresses of the day.  It’s almost a fantasy, or maybe just a time out from reality.  It’s how we recharge our batteries to get through another week.

We all need to recharge, and so many people don’t take the time to do so.  In my company, almost everyone has trouble spending their vacation days.  There is a struggle between dedication and personal well-being, a struggle I attempt to fight by sticking to my assigned working hours.  But I can’t lie.  The buzz of the Blackberry at 9PM draws me back in.  What if it’s important?

Still, I fight the urge to answer emails after hours, and I try not to talk about the nitty gritty work stuff outside of work. It’s safer to stick to the basics, and talk about the other aspects of my life.

We are not working machines!  We have families and lives outside of work. And sometimes, we all need a breather.

Moral of the story — take your vacation time, and enjoy your weekends.

I should blog about the conference, but…

May 26, 2011 at 7:34 am | Posted in Life and Living | 1 Comment
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Ok, so I know I promised to report back about the conference I went to last week, but unfortunately it wasn’t all I had hoped it would be.  There was a great line up of speakers but the attendance was very low which decreased the networking opportunities significantly.  But rather than harp on what the conference wasn’t, I decided to take the opportunity to enjoy Miami.  I was there with my best friend and fellow blogger Dezolutions, and we both were really in need of a vacation anyways, so what better timing did we have?

We both fell in love with Miami.  It was beautiful and fun and really gave us the impression that anything goes when it comes to South Beach.  It really did seem like a judgement-free zone.  And beyond the palm trees, the sand, the shopping, the food, and the night life,  I found real relaxation in the ocean.

The ocean is my new happy place.  It’s so blue and warm, and the waves are huge.  I spent a significant amount of time just floating in it, happy enough to let it take me away.  All of my stress just melted away and nothing else mattered.  I was weightless and therefore so were my worries.

I love New York, don’t get me wrong, but the ocean up here sucks.  Every summer my friends and I say we need to go to the beach more, but we never follow through, and I think I now know why.  The return on investment is not big enough.  For us to go to a “good” beach, we need to wake up early on the weekend, pack up a cooler and then drive for 45 minutes. From there, we need to pay to park and then lug all of our junk onto the beach.  Then, you stare at gray, cold water and low waves.  Nothing relaxing about that!

And now I am going to crave that water down south. I’m going to dream about it, especially when I am stressed like I am this week at work.  And once my tan fades away, I’m going to need to find a way to bring myself back to that worry-free zone.  Somehow, one way or another, I will reunite with an ocean as beautiful as South Beach again soon.  At this point, it’s going to be hard to settle for less.

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