Tell Me What to Do

April 7, 2013 at 10:46 pm | Posted in Life and Living | Leave a comment
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I remember the very moment when I felt the most relief I have ever had in my life.  It was right before I walked down the aisle at my wedding.  It was the moment when I no longer had to make any decisions.  I just had to follow directions. Someone was going to tell me where to stand, what to say, and what to do.

It’s kind of strange to get relief from being told what to do, but it kind of makes sense.  I have always been a decision-maker, very assertive and ready to commit to whichever choice I was making.  The world was not going to end if you chose the wrong restaurant, the wrong shoes, the wrong hotel.  As a child, one of the greatest moments is when you finally get the courage and knowledge to say what it is you want to do, and that it’s not what you are being told to do.  It’s freedom in its purest form.

But let’s be honest.  Making decisions is incredibly stressful!  At the end of the day, you are responsible for whatever decision you make.  If you book a flight too close to a meeting and your flight is delayed, that’s on you.  Choosing an apartment, a college, a car, a partner, all of these decisions rest entirely on you.  We look to our trusted loved ones to back up our decisions, sometimes calling on them to tell us what to do, but in the end it’s on you, and if things go awry, it’s on you to fix.

As an adult, this takes on a whole new meaning.  Without a provided structure to guide our time, our roles, our responsibilities, it’s totally on you to make decisions that make sense for your life in the context of the world we live in.  There is so much to think about.  Each decision effects the next and learning from the past while thinking about the present and the future, and all the other factors, is exhausting.

So please, expert on my life, whoever you are, tell me what to do sometimes.  Oh, who am I kidding? I probably wouldn’t listen anyways.

Shine Bright

February 21, 2013 at 12:14 pm | Posted in Career Moves, Life and Living | Leave a comment
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ring2The flip side of survivalism is living the dream — taking a risk to do what you love and (hopefully) finding success. That’s the story behind my friend over at Eclectique Collection.   Eclectique Collection was born out of an artist’s culmination in creativity.  She has developed an unique style of hand-crafted jewelry using vintage pieces and making them new again.  Each piece of jewelry she creates by hand tells the story of love, of care, of history, of beauty.  Originally starting out the business as a side gig while working a full time job as a graphic designer and being a single mom, she was inspired to follow her dream full time after the loss of her father. Life is too short to not seize an opportunity, and that she did. I know her father would be proud.

And she’s been working incredibly hard to make her dream successful.  She has a lot at stake — and this new career allows her to do what she loves while being with her son.  She has seen some incredible early success, and it is much deserved. Through jewelry parties, fashion shows, and online promotion, her business is picking up steam.  I have no doubt that she will become a fixture in the fashion world in some way over the next couple of years with her dedication, determination and talent.

And I have to commend her, because this really is a big risk, and she didn’t take it lightheartedly, I know. Most independent businesses struggle to be successful. Many fail within their first year. But she is forever the optimist, and she took the risk at the right time, with the right supports in place.

Therein, lies the key.  Many people confuse the idea of risk-taking with irresponsibility or spontaneity. That is just not the case. Risk-taking, when done right, involves a plan and a willingness to do whatever it takes to succeed, and beyond that believing in yourself and what you have to offer the world.

When you have as much heart as this girl does, you will always find a way.

Be sure to check out the Eclectique Collection today for the latest creations, get inspired and do some shopping!

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