The Thanksgiving Table

November 24, 2011 at 12:28 pm | Posted in Family Ties | 2 Comments
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To me, Thanksgiving is all about reflection, food, and family.  Last year, I reflected on the imperfections of the world at large.  I talk and think about food all the time, so that wouldn’t be anything new.  So this year, I will focus on family.

The food stays the same, but who sits around the Thanksgiving table has changed over the years.  I have fleeting memories of when my grandparents were alive and would spend the holidays with us.  I have a small family, so we were able to have my grandmother and my nana and papa with us, as well as my first cousins and their parents comfortably.  I spent all of my holidays with my cousins when I was young.  We are the same age and my father was always close to his brother.

But over the years, we grew apart from my cousins.  Life just got really hard and somehow our connection weakened.  It’s pretty sad since we live so close to each other.  I hope that one day we are able to reconnect, but if there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s really hard to keep a family close.

So your family grows and changes.  My fiance also has a small family, so we’ve started a tradition of spending the holidays with both sets of parents at the same time.  I consider myself lucky because I don’t have to split the holidays and try to balance to separate families.  Together, we are one family, and it didn’t even take grand kids to make that happen.

My brother, however, married into a big family that lives partially in Virginia.  This year, he is spending my nephew’s first Thanksgiving with his wife’s family.  I will certainly miss them.

It will be interesting to see how this holiday continues to evolve.  I picture hosting it one day in my own home, with my kids and both sets of grandparents around the table.

So this year, I am thankful for my family.  No matter how we may get on each other’s nerves, we are there for each other.  Times have been really tough, but we at least have each other.

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Thankful in an Imperfect World

November 25, 2010 at 11:08 am | Posted in Life and Living | 3 Comments
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It’s that time of year where we are all summoned to reflect on the good in our lives.  Sometimes it is hard to do this, particularly when there is so much bad in the world.  Some things just shouldn’t be the way they are, but you can’t control everything.

We shouldn’t be in this recession.  Families that have worked all their lives shouldn’t lose everything due to a bad economy.  Families should not feel forced to sell their homes just to live.  The housing market shouldn’t be in such bad shape that people for those who really do want to or need to sell.

Children should not go hungry or suffer serious illness.  Illness and the harsh reality of poverty destroys the innocence of too many young children, not just in “third world” countries, but right here, in our neighborhoods.

Mothers shouldn’t have to ride the subway asking for hand outs proclaiming they don’t drink, they don’t use drugs and they don’t smoke cigarettes. All funds raised will help her feed her children and prepare for job interviews.  The government and charities don’t have the capacity to save them all.

Animals should not be beaten. Nobody should be beaten, but there is no one more innocent than animals.  Animals may not get equal rights to humans, but they do not deserve to be used as punching bags for disturbed humans to vent their frustrations on.  Animals give unconditional love, unless given a reason not to.

No one should feel alone.  Yes, technically we experience life and death alone, but in the in between we should be able to confide in each other.

Nobody should ever have to fight for their rights.  We should all accept our neighbors for who they are, and if we don’t like them, then just leave it alone.  We should have better things to do that to tell other people who to live their lives.

All people should be loved, and experience being in love.  All people should have the chance to find their passion.  All people should be free, and respect others’ freedom.  All people should be able to express themselves.  All people should be able to see the light, even in the dark, because the dark will never go away, and sometimes you have to face it, and sometimes you can just look passed it.  All people should have the capacity to look passed the little things.

But we live in an imperfect world, and nothing is what it should be, so this Thanksgiving I am thankful for one thing in particular.  I am thankful for another day to make it all right.

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