On Recognizing Valentine’s Day

February 14, 2013 at 4:26 pm | Posted in Friends Then and Now, Relationship Woes | Leave a comment
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It seems that the world is full of lovers on Valentine’s Day.  Everywhere you go you see men carrying flowers home to loved ones, lines out the door at cupcake shops and photos of gifts from significant others on Facebook and Instagram.  Added to the mix are those who hate Valentine’s Day for various reasons. No matter what your position is, unless you hide from society for the day, you will be confronted with it in some way on February 14.

Many will argue that it is a Hallmark holiday designed as a cash cow, and in many ways it is treated as such.   And many single folks will talk about how much they hate this fake holiday.  But truth be told, there is a long history to this holiday much like other major holidays we celebrate. I think the most interesting is the legend of St. Valentine, who was martyred for performing clandestine weddings for soldiers forbidden to wed.  Accordingly February 14th has been celebrated as a time to express romantic love since the 15th century.  So the history of this “fake” holiday runs just as deep as many holidays we observe as a nation.

As with any holiday, it is open to interpretation and observance can certainly vary, and perhaps if I was single, I’d think differently, but I feel like Valentine’s Day is a chance to tell the people who matter most to you how you really feel. So often we go through the day to day without expressing our admiration for each other, it is nice to have a day to recognize it. For me, it’s not about the fancy dinners.  It’s about knowing that tonight I will be with the ones I love the most — my husband and my dog.

To all of my friends and family, I love you everyday, and I’m sorry if I haven’t said it enough.  But today, I will say it loud and clear.  It is because you care about me, make me laugh, hold me when I’m sad, hug me when I’m scared, make me smile when I am clearly pissed, it is because of all these things that I love you today and everyday.

To Be Able to Love

February 14, 2012 at 7:33 am | Posted in Relationship Woes | Leave a comment
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I was lucky enough to see this beauty in Italy

Ever since I was young, I was always fascinated by romantic relationships.  I have had crushes on boys as early as first grade, when the girls would chase cute boys around the playground.  When I first started to learn about Greek Mythology, I was immediately drawn to Aphrodite, Goddess of Love.  I am lucky to be able to say I have loved and been in love several times, in different ways, at different times in my life, and I learned a lot about people, relationships, and myself in the process.

I know what you are thinking – isn’t love supposed to be unique and special, reserved for life’s one true love?  Isn’t that what a true romantic would believe?  How can you fall in love several times with different people?

I would be living in a total fantasy world if I said that I expected to marry my first love.  Young love is so exciting, but both parties have a lot of coming into their own to do.  There are the few lucky ones who will marry their first love, but if you are like me, it takes a lot of trial and error, heartache and heartbreak before you find the “one.”

And what would you say of those who lost a loved one, or fell out of love with a spouse? Are they incapable of falling in love again?  Are they destined to a life of solitude, missing that deep connection that comes only from love? I think not.

I think that everyone deserves the opportunity to fall in love.  It is an experience unlike any other.  I think that timing is everything, and that everything happens for a reason.  I think that love can be really strong and it can also be really comforting.  I think that love makes you feel weak but it also makes you feel powerful.  I think that heartache can hurt so much that you think that you will never love again, and I think that love can give you the strength to go on.

I think that for a relationship to last, it takes more than love.  It takes respect.  It takes commitment.  It takes understanding, and patience, and compromise.  It’s important to remember why you fell in love in the first place.  Love takes hope.

I hope to be in love for the rest of my life with my partner, my best friend.  I hope he will be in love with me for the rest of his life.  So far, it’s been quite a ride.

…adding in one of my favorite club songs of all time, just for funsies..

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