The Mrs.-to be!

May 31, 2011 at 7:33 am | Posted in Relationship Woes | 12 Comments
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It’s true — I am engaged, and I couldn’t be happier!  It does seem like just yesterday that I was reflecting on my brother’s marriage and was unsure of when I wanted to tie the knot, but at some point during the past year my position changed dramatically.

Anyone who knows me personally knows that I have no patience, so once it was made up in my mind that I did want to marry my live-in boyfriend, I couldn’t wait for him to propose. I like to say it was “When Harry Met Sally” syndrome — once you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.  But, in following tradition, I had to wait for him to propose.  It was frustrating at times but I knew he was trying to surprise me, and surprise me he did.

He knew that if he took me to a fancy dinner or did anything out of the ordinary, I would know he was up to something, so he kept it sweet and simple — one night while watching TV at home, he came out of the bedroom with a platter of cupcakes and the ring.  I was completely shocked but so happy (and yea, I freakin’ love cupcakes).  It was interesting timing though because I had to get the ring sized and I had a crazy busy time at work and some travel coming up, so we kept the engagement under wraps until I had the ring successfully on my finger.  I was bursting at the seams.

So now that I have the ring, I can officially say that I feel incredibly lucky and blessed.  Six years of friendship, 3 and a half years being a couple, and nearly 1 year of domestic partnership, I can truly say that I am marrying my best friend, the love of my life.  I am looking forward to the big day, the pre-wedding festivities, and of course, the marriage.

And now for a few promises to my readers.  Though I am sure I will be sharing a lot of information about my upcoming nuptials, this will not turn into a wedding blog.  I know that life outside of planning a wedding will continue, and I plan to continue writing this blog following the idea it was built on — my journey to age thirty.

And a promise to my friends, family, and fiancee — I will not be a bridezilla.  I know that “my day” will be “my day” but there are others that have a stake in it, and I want everyone to have a good time.  My fiancee and I are funding this wedding all by ourselves, so we will have to get creative to make this day special.  But I know it will all be worth it to be able to call him my husband and celebrate with all of those we love.

The Lure of the Vegas Wedding

August 17, 2010 at 7:29 am | Posted in Relationship Woes | 7 Comments
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Vegas gets a rep for being a sexually-charged party town and a place for quickie weddings. Having just returned from my first visit there, I’d have to say that it did live up to its reputation.But there was an unexpected quality about Vegas that caught me off guard.  Beyond the card smackers promising beautiful babes straight to your door and the scantily clad table dancers, there was  a certain romanticism about Vegas.  Breathtaking views and intimate dinners pepper the strip and no doubt fuel the impulsive lovers who often end up at the corner chapel.

Eloping in Vegas is just so easy, and I’m sure some find it romantic.  I must say even I was tempted (and I’m sure my boyfriend would have preferred this easy way out) but I resisted.  To me, the work that goes into planning a wedding is symbolic of the hard work it takes to keep a relationship, a marriage, happy and healthy.  To me, a wedding where friends and family can share in your joy just makes the union that much stronger.  To me, marriage is too big of a commitment to waste that first moment on a night with Elvis.

Ok, weddings can be expensive, especially for those of us who don’t have wealthy benefactors footing the bill, or even contributing to the cause.  But there are ways to limit the cost.  A simple wedding is just as beautiful as one with the works.  A wedding shouldn’t be about competing for the best reception.  It’s about love, am I right?

I’ve only known one person who did fly off the Vegas for her nuptials, and her relationship promptly deteriorated, so maybe that has skewed my perception.  But I’m not one of those women who has had “her day” planned since I was a little girl, either.  I just simply have a high respect for marriage and feel the wedding deserves the same respect.  And besides, how many times in your life will hundreds of people tell you your beautiful all in the same day?

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