February 7, 2013 at 7:30 am | Posted in Life and Living | Leave a comment
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I was watching a reality show recently (oh come on, everybody does it — don’t judge!), whenI caught a line from one of the competitors that has stuck in my mind.  When asked what she thought about winning the competition she said, “winning is about the moment, better is forever.”  I gotta say, I totally get it.

Living one’s life for a moment of glory is hard to predict and a lot to hope for, but living one’s life striving to be a better person everyday can really make life worth living.  I plan to be a lifelong learner, learning from many sources — from experience, exploration, and education.  As you get older and lose the structure society has created for young folks to achieve this, it’s up to you to continue to feed your mind.  You only get one, so use it or lose it!

And as a lifelong learner, I will keep an open mind.  I will allow myself to imagine the world different from what it seems on the surface, knowing that it could be different from what it seems, that it could even be changed.  It could get better, just as I could get better.

I can be spontaneous.  I can be calculated.  I have to be both, because as good as it is to continue to grow, you want those glorious moments, too.  I have to plan some things, have some goals, in order to get better, but I have to let surprises happen without fear.  I need to take risks and have faith and listen to others’ opinions and not jump to conclusions.

There is a lot that I can do to be a better person, and a lot of it comes with first understanding myself, peeling back the layers and going deeper.  Why do I feel the way I do, react the way I do, portray myself the way I do?  Only in knowing the why’s can I really be in tune with myself and be the best me I can be.  And that, my friends, is really winning.

Luck of the Irish — What about the rest of us?

March 17, 2011 at 7:31 am | Posted in Life and Living | 3 Comments
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I honestly don’t know if the Irish are anymore lucky than any other group of people.  I have never witnessed a lucky moment of an Irish man (I happen to live in an area with a huge Irish immigrant population, which would up my chances of seeing a moment like this).  I have witnessed Irish men drink an exorbitant amount of alcohol, more than seems humanly possible, and live to see the next day, but that’s really about it.

What I do know is that I have no luck.  OK, maybe I have some luck, but it’s mostly bad luck.  I have never won anything I didn’t work for.  Not even a raffle.  Literally nothing.  OK, maybe like 5 bucks on a scratch off ticket, but nothing substantial ever.  You may think having no good luck wouldn’t really effect one’s life, but it has.  I don’t find gambling to be fun, nor do I enjoy playing the lottery.  Call me crazy, but I just don’t like seeing my money slip away so quickly for nothing because there is no way I am going to win. “Winning?” 🙂

It’s not that I don’t like to take risks, but I just don’t like my odds in the game of chance.  I don’t know if I believe in destiny, but I do believe in fate. Being in the right place and the right time.  I don’t know if everything happens for a reason, because I’ve seen some lucky bastards win things who definitely didn’t deserve them, but I guess that is often characteristic of luck.  Luck is not merit-based.

I still say things like, “wish me luck,” and “good luck,” but those are just sayings really. I mean, I really do wish that I could have some good luck.  I have a tendency to have a lot of bad luck poured on me at the same time.  But I guess people have a tendency not to recognize good fortune when it is upon them. Because things always could be worse. Seriously.  I’m lucky to have my health, my love, my family, my freedom, my job, my home, my friends.  I could be sick, single, an orphan with no job or friends and call prison home.  But I’m not.

But I will always want more.  I am a good person.  I know a lot of good people who do good things.  I wish luck to all those who deserve it. If only there was some fairness in luck.

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